From: Karen Kimberley - Changing People Inside <>
Subject: News from Karen Kimberley - Changing People Inside
October 2011
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Welcome to Changing People Inside

Dear Karen   


Welcome to our October newsletter.


A variety of interesting, topical and useful tips about philosophy, psychology, coaching, sport, team work, safety, leadership, how men and women communicate differently, how to handle tough feedback, body language, and how to tell when someone is lying to you.


Or am I just kidding? Why not read on, and find out....


Enjoy your day! 


Best wishes,



The reason why the world is in chaos

This photo poem by Rian Varghese sadly seems to ring true for us in the 21st Century.


Rian Varghese



What would your title be if you were a book?

This was the fascinating question posed to us in a workshop with Roy Childs from Team Focus who was explaining to us the value of psychometric questionnaires and why they can be misinterpreted.


We were posed other challenging questions such as:

  • Does your personality change?
  • Is it just our behaviour that changes?
  • Can major life events or illnesses change who we are fundamentally?

After Roy asked us to write a simple pen portrait of ourselves we began to realise the value of a questionnaire - to magnify and structure our thoughts about ourselves.


This navel gazing was an attempt to understand why some psychometric tests can be useful, whereas some can be more about your work context and role rather than your personality.




Room to think


Questionnaires need to be reliable and valid but should be used as a starter for a conversation to establish where you are now and find out what you have begun to believe about yourself. In a coaching session they can act like a third person in the room giving a more objective opinion.



A test can also help you identify if you are stuck.  


Whether profiles change over time was another interesting topic for discussion. There is evidence that even MBTI (Myers Briggs) profiles will change over time and over 50% of people will change by at least one letter.


 Roy believes that our 'story' should change. 'Every extrovert can discover the introvert within them and vice verse' says Childs. A questionnaire helps to explore and discover the parts of ourselves that are not normally given expression to.


Team Focus has developed a psychometric test called VbiM - Value Based Indicator of Motivation.Values are the key to understanding people's energy and motivation. VbIM uses the latest technology to provide more sophisticated assessment by combining both normative and ipsative approaches within the same questionnaire.   This lets people look at the

relative strength of their own values, and the priority they give to each, as well as providing a means of benchmarking against the pattern of values that prevails in the general population.


Another useful tool is the Resilience Scales Questionnaire (RSQ) which asks people to consider how they react to pressure. Sometimes pressure brings out the best in people. Sometimes it makes them less effective. We can think of these two reactions to pressure as 'Stretch' and 'Stress'.

The test has 3 different behavioural hierarchies that challenge and expose the gaps that traditional questionnaires may not.


These new angles enable an individual to look at what they do when they are particularly stretched, stressed or under pressure. It measures the movement that might occur when you are in different states and how well your resilience levels allow you to perform.


As much of our current coaching work is dealing with motivation, stress, anger management, anxiety and self esteem this new angle will be a welcome boost for coaches, trainers, HR professionals and managers alike.


So to summarise a questionnaire is like a snapshot - capturing your story as it is now. So what would your book be called? And what would be the chapter number...and how many chapters would it have?


To find out more contact the lovely Roy Childs at Team Focus their website contains funky titbits like this below...


E=MC2Did you know that Albert Einstein was not considered to be particularly gifted by his university lecturers? Seems they didn't know how to spot talent!






How teamwork makes a World Champion cyclist

Mark CavendishMark Cavendish, arguably Britain's best sprinter ever, became cycling's world champion last month. He now wears the rainbow jersey and has the Tour de France and the Olympics in his sights next year. But Mark is modest as ever and attributes all his success to his team.


Jonathan Liew wrote about Cavendish:


True sporting excellence is scarce enough, but on Sunday, on a warm Copenhagen afternoon, a scrawny kid from the Isle of Man ceased to be merely excellent and ascended into the plane of greatness.


The pedestal upon which the 26-year-old Cavendish now stands as world road race champion is one shared only with a privileged few, among them Eddy Merckx, Bernard Hinault, Lance Armstrong and Mario Cipollini.


Tommy SimpsonAnd, of course, Tommy Simpson, pictured to the left, who won in 1965, two years before tragically perishing on the slopes of Mont Ventoux.

 With this, to add to his two world titles on the track, his seven stage wins on the Giro d'Italia and 20 on the Tour de France, Cavendish becomes not just one of our greatest cyclists, but one of our greatest sportsmen.


His is a rare and glorious talent, and this title, that pristine rainbow jersey, was the one accolade he craved above all others.


Cavendish said:


"This is the pinnacle," he said. "This is what we've all been working for. As a British citizen, the Olympics are a big thing. But as a professional cyclist, you can't get bigger than winning the rainbow jersey.


"I always said when I was younger that I wanted to be world champion. I can't win the yellow jersey in the Tour de France. For me, this jersey signifies the biggest thing I can get."


As he has done throughout his career, Cavendish was quick to attribute his success to the strength of the team behind him, with the likes of Bradley Wiggins, David Millar and Geraint Thomas throwing all their efforts into seeing him to the finish.


"There could only be one outcome after they rode so well," he said. "They gave more than 100 per cent today. I couldn't let the guys down."


"We realized about halfway through that we were going to have to lead," Millar said. "It was daunting, but everybody did they job even more than we expected.'


Rivals or teammates?


The significance of this win was that the team had no support at at all from their rivals in the race - rival cycling teams often create alliances and partnerships in order to get to a strong position in the race just like business people do. But Cavendish's team had such a strong belief and Cavendish had such a strong vision that he would win - he even guaranteed it to David Millar in a conversation before the race - that they went out front and took a risk.


These days so many people are afraid to take a risk - worried about their jobs - and leaders are floundering without vision and belief as the economic circumstances buffet and trouble businesses. It's now when times are tough that true leaders emerge and inspirational figures appear and businesses can seize opportunity. From crisis comes opportunity. In fact the Chinese word for "crisis" is frequently invoked in motivational speaking along with the statement that the two characters it is composed of represent "danger" and "opportunity."


So when your next opportunity comes with a risk remember that world champions are made by taking a risk - and that a winning team needs to have strong leadership, belief and vision to succeed.




How do men and women communicate differently?

3 Telltale Examples That Say They Do - click here to find out more.



How elephants lead safely

LattitudeWe are really pleased for our friends Lattitude Productions who won FIRST PRIZE: Giants of Leadership - the Nature of Safety, from the 8th International Film and Multimedia Festival, part of the World Congress on Safety and Health at Work.Film and Multimedia Festival


It's a ringing endorsement of Lattitude's approach to safety training - they believe rather than telling people what's good for them, it is better to inspire them to behave more safely. 


Excellent leadership skills are vital in organisations that aspire to a world-class safety culture. But it is hard to tell someone they are a poor leader. So Giants of Leadership takes a novel approach, moving away from the workplace and into the African savannah. There we find that elephants are, by nature, wonderful leaders, keeping those around them safe and healthy.


ElephantsViewers get to spend time watching spectacular footage of elephants - a refreshing change from many health and safety training sessions. In the process, they learn about the essential components of leadership: 

  • Respect 
  • Leading By Example
  • Constant Communication
  • Caring
  • Consistency
  • Learning From Mistakes


Visit website for more information about the award-winning Giants of Leadership - the Nature of Safety. You can also watch a preview of the film on the site.

Or to talk through how Giants of Leadership - the Nature of Safety may be able to help your organisation, call Rob Coyle on +44 (0)1435 831500





Comma - communication professionals for corporate businesses

We are really pleased to recommend Virginia Hicks at Comma who has helped us gain a part time interim contract with British Gas.


As the concern around the global and home economy grows, there is more focus on head count and evidence of 'freeze' in some businesses. Interims are an excellent solution to meet short and medium term deadlines where the business improvement activities need effective and experienced communications thinking and delivery to be successful.


Please find attached a link to a recent Comma article on interims which was first published through Simply Communicate.





Is this an alternative to the feedback sandwich?

We liked this piece from Paul Matthews, founder of People Alchemy.

Steven K Scott wrote that every criticism contains water, sand and gold.

FootprintsThe water is the 'noise' in the criticism - the words that carry the message but don't say much in and of themselves.

The sand is the bit that stings - the part of the criticism you find virtually impossible not to take personally and it hurts to hear, read or even consider it.

The gold is the nugget of truth in the criticism - the piece that if you really took it to heart, you would be able to change things for the better.

Panning for the gold can be difficult, but it is worthwhile.

Here's a thought. The nugget of truth for you might not be the core message that the person was trying to give you, especially if they were criticising you to help them feel good about themselves. Look for YOUR message amongst the sand and water.

For some more useful tips on how to get the best from criticism, no matter how well or poorly it is given, click here



Alphabetical fun



And finally...

On any given day we're lied to from 10 to 200 times. Pamela Meyer shows some of the surprising clues that professionals use to spot a liar - click here






Issue 18
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In This Issue
The reason why the world is in chaos
What would your title be if you were a book?
How teamwork makes a World Champion cyclist
How do men and women communicate differently?
How elephants lead safely
Comma - communication professionals for corporate businesses
Is this an alternative to the feedback sandwich?
Alphabetical fun
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Karen Kimberley's company is based in Taplow near Maidenhead. She coaches people inside companies, to change things inside themselves, to improve their communication and performance. For more information contact Karen on Tel 01628 509593, Mobile: 07785 566468, e-mail, and visit the website 

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